As the social networking leader, Facebook holds a privileged position. It has the power to set the tone in a still evolving community where more and more of us are spending more and more time.

But with the latest brouhaha over its update to user privacy settings, Facebook appears arrogant, coming off as the big bully in our little neighborhood of 350 million, rather than the gregarious and fair town mayor it should be. It wasn't Facebook's lack of communication that caused the ...